The Phenomenon Of White Women Who Only Date Black Men

You know who she is. The white girl with the big hoop earrings, the (fake) diamond stud in her nose, and the tattoo on her left tit of a phoenix, butterfly, or anything else that denotes “freedom” or whatever brand of profound bullshit they want you to believe about them.

Every few seconds her phone is ringing out two second snippets of the hip hop track du jour, alerting her of another text from one of a few black men she happens to be “talking to” at the moment.

A “mud shark” is loosely defined as a white girl who exclusively dates or fucks black men. It’s a phenomenon that goes back as far as any of us can remember. As a black man, I feel obligated to give you readers my insider’s perspective on this trend.

This is an interesting topic that has many layers so let’s jump right in and see if we can figure out why these women, who polarize our culture with their supposed taste in men, do what they do.

Low Self Esteem?

The go-to explanation most people seem to use when expounding on why Caucasian females prefer black men is low self esteem, and I’m inclined to agree with this on some level.

Any man, regardless of race, will admit that white men are at the top of the food chain in terms of sexual predilection among females the world over. The reasons for this are vast and can be the subject of volumes of columns, but the fact of the matter is that white dudes are pretty much every woman’s type.

The low self esteem explanation fits with a lot of girls (not just white girls) because, as we all are aware of here in the ‘sphere, the vast majority of women aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on and they know it. Sure, they can work out and look good, but at the end of the day most females these days know they’re not worth much outside of the moist holes between their collective legs.

A lot of white females who gravitate toward only black men likely have self esteem issues on account of not being able to consolidate on, date for an extended period of time, or even have a one night stand with a white male. It could be their physical deficiencies (read: fat), it could be a lack of nurturing and encouragement from one or both parents during their childhood, or any combination of many different factors.

Whatever the reasons, the fact of the matter is that women who have low self esteem often swim to the darker side of the ocean to feel what every woman wants to feel: to be desired. And if white men aren’t going to wife them up, date them, or even fuck them, they’ve got to fulfill this need to be sexually craved somehow and black males are often viewed as their only option.

Are white men not masculine enough?

About a year ago I wrote this article about my personal experience about the benefits and detriments of game for black men in the West. One of the points I touch is is the assumed “alpha advantage” black men seem to have over white men:

While most white men in the Anglo world have to prove their sexual fitness to women (on the “alpha fucks” side of hypergamy) there’s an unspoken sentiment that black men who are at or near the extreme poles of the financial hierarchy (wealthy and poor) are natural alphas…

This assumption will push women to shit test as a function of confirmation as opposed to discovery or qualification. They will poke and prod a little to make sure you live up to the perceived reputation (to what degree depends largely on frame), but women tend to give black men the benefit of the doubt as far as congruency goes.

It’s no secret that today’s man is more effete than ever and are grossly lacking in even the most basic masculine qualities. But here’s the thing:

This problem doesn’t discriminate because men of all races and nationalities in this part of the world have been victimized by the effects of feminist culture.

No matter their color, every man has been neutered by the scalpel of feminism. But white men catch the most heat here in the states because A) white men are the majority so there are more to critique B) as stated before, white males are at the top of the sexual food chain which leads to C) consistent scrutiny as a natural bi-product of A and B.

What should come as no surprise to anyone here is that females are too stupid to open their eyes and realize that the percentages are all about the same across the board with regards to the alpha to beta ratio. Their hind brains are constantly saturated by the media, which routinely portrays most black men as static alphas and most white men as latent betas.

Combine that with the fact that most white women in this country have cushy office jobs and are surrounded by and exposed to beta schlubs (most of which are white men) on a daily basis, it’s no wonder most of them foolishly believe that to get their five minutes of alpha they need to spread ’em for brothers.

Experimentation?

We’ve all heard the term “once you go black you don’t go back” and you can bet your bottom dollar this is a phrase that permeates the circles of your garden variety pumpkin-spice-loving, reality-show-binging white chicks. The pull of the so-called “forbidden fruit” is too strong for some not to try at least once.

I read an article years ago written by a white woman who explained why she now exclusively dates black men. The post has since been removed but snippets of it can be found here. This chick was looking for a change after having been on a horrible date with a white guy whom she claimed had a red face, on account of him probably taking a Viagra before their date. That was apparently the straw that broke the camel’s back.

She talked about black men’s natural ability to flirt, their natural rhythm in bed, and their smooth skin which, to her, felt like “satin and velvet made flesh.” After her first tryst she was hooked and that, in her mind, was all she needed to only surrender her flower exclusively to black guys.

This woman’s experience is certainly not an exception as it happens all over this country every day.  But in order to fulfill the other side of her dualistic sexual imperative, she knows deep down that banging brothers isn’t going to be a long term excursion if she wants her slice of “Americana.”

That said, it certainly doesn’t stop Caucasian women from crossing over to the dark side to feel the excitement that comes with pursuing sexual encounters with black men, if even for just a little while.

Rebellion and attention?

Rebellion

Over the last five decades or so it seems trendy thing to do is to rebel against “society’s norms.” The last decade, however, has seen this trend gain ungodly momentum as the number of females with colored hair, tattoos, and body piercing are increasing by the day.

This is their way of “sticking it to the (white) man” and showing him that they won’t conform to their oppressive expectations and ideals.

While there are a shitload of other measures females have employed to remain as non-compliant as possible, one avenue that more of them seem to be openly broadcasting is their affinity for black males. In their minds, this is the ultimate middle finger to the patriarchy, whom they feel tells them who they shouldn’t share a bed with.

Attention

It’s been well documented that women are nothing more than overgrown children. Their adolescent mentalities combined with their innate lack of self esteem leads them to the overt attention whoring today’s girls are known for.

It’s been said that there’s no such thing as bad publicity. To Western girls, there’s no such thing as bad attention. So long as people are paying attention to them they couldn’t give two shits whether they’re being admired or admonished.

Most of the white girls I’ve dated are serial hand holders. The moment we get out of my car and are walking around in public, they don’t hesitate to grab my hand and proudly strut around as though they were the queens of the fucking universe.

Now this could be because they genuinely liked me. But red pill knowledge tells me that a good number of them gladly soak up the attention that comes their way as a result of being seen holding hands with a tall black guy.

I’m not in their heads, but their body language screams “look, I’m being fucked senseless every night by a black guy who has a 15″ cock!” or something to that effect. I could be wrong but when a girl is holding hands with a brother with a look on her face akin to the cat that ate the canary, it’s hard to imagine many other thoughts going through their one track minds designed to hoard attention by any means possible.

Are white girls who date black guys “off limits” or “contaminated”?

I don’t often read the comments on my posts, but when I do, it’s because I’m looking to learn something and maybe gain some more perspective or see things through the lenses of our readers.

In my personal experience with conversations I’ve had with friends over the years, there does seem to be an undercurrent or unwritten sentiment that women who have slept with or been in relationships with black men are somehow contaminated or off limits.

A good female friend of mine has a good looking sister who’s married to a very affluent, high-value white male. According to my friend, she dated mostly black guys all through high school and college but guards that “secret” with her life and says she will take any admission of commingling with them to her grave.

There are a couple of reasons this perceived pollution of white women come to mind such as the myth of the big black cock and the AAA (automatic alpha assumption). As a black man I can’t speak to whether this is true or not.

I can, however, identify with this concept in terms of neomasculinity. Anyone who regularly reads my columns knows I used to be a raging. Omega. Male. Being that low on the sexual totem pole automatically kept me away girls who’d been on the wild alpha roller coaster ride, because I knew in my mind I’d never be as exciting and take charge as they were no matter what race he was.

In my beta brain, if I learned that a girl I was interested in had ex boyfriend who was a 6’4″ Adonis with ripped abs, a sports car, sleeve tattoos, a devil-may-care attitude about about him, and who was always surrounded by pretty women, I wouldn’t so much as talk to her on account of my programmed inferiority.

The race of her ex would be of little consqeuence. The bottom line is that in my mind I’d have no chance with a girl who had ever been involved with a dude like that. I’d be very interested to see your thoughts on this unwritten rule.

What are you saying about black men???

“But Donovan! You’re black! How can you talk this way about black men! Do you hate yourself??”

Make no mistake about the fact that I’m a confident man who knows who he is and who he’s not. For me to believe that I “should” be every woman’s first choice for long term partnership is both short-sighted and delusional.

Yes, it’s important for men to approach women as though he’s entitled to fuck them and yes it’s equally important to know, believe, and walk around as though you are God’s gift to women.

But facts are facts. As a black male, I know that more often than not I’m viewed as a flavor of the week or a phase by most women I approach. Doesn’t hurt my feelings one bit. I’m simply playing the hand that I’ve been dealt.

Sure, there have been a few women in my life I’ve spent more than a few months with and there have been a few who wanted more than just a roll in the hay for a few weeks or to show me off to her friends (“look at my black boyfriend!”).

But as a man with red pill awareness, I’m aware that both the sexual market and a woman’s imperative doesn’t give a shit about what it should offer me as a man. And neither cares what’s fair and what’s not.

Short men, balding men, ugly men, and yes even black men have to have more game than the Anglo-ideals (like my friend Paul) the highest value females fawn over. This isn’t a slight on men who have the aforementioned sexual market deficiencies and it’s not to imply that I’m not a high value male.

But the strongest part of a man’s game is knowing his deficiencies in SMV and working tirelessly to overcome them, or increase his value in areas over which he has more control.

Take Away

Are there white women out there who date men of all races including brothers? Sure.

Are there high SMV women who date black men because they happen to be her type? Of course.

There are plenty of well adjusted, confident, high value women who date black guys for no other reason but that some black men turn them on and have solid game. Happens all the time.

But the sexual imperative of a female is to consolidate on the highest value male she can find. Women who consistently punch what is perceived to be below their collective weight by dating only men who are not considered to be viable long-term partners or husbands according to cultural standards means there inherent flaws that exist physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Truth be told, most of the time it’s a combination of two or more of these factors playing a role in a white woman’s decision to commingle with black males, whether occasionally or exclusively.

So what do you think? Why do you think “mud sharks” exist? What do you think drives them to do what they do?

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5 things women won't tell you about sex (but you need to know)

Note: This post features frank discussions of sexuality and may be NSFW.

Our culture unleashes many forms of toxic socialization on its inhabitants, but few lessons seem to take as well as teaching girls from the cradle to coddle the male ego, not just with flattery but with a deep unwillingness to speak truths that could cause men to feel uncomfortable or imperfect. 

And nowhere is this less true than in the sack. Many a woman who feels herself a ballsy broad in her daily life finds herself in bed, afraid to say “Please do this” or “Don’t do that” for fear of confronting a man looking shocked, upset, or disappointed—which can push a button installed in us as little girls labeled Failure As A Woman. We know we should get over it already. We know we should speak up and take our lumps and men who can’t handle it are bad lovers we should be dumping anyway. It’s not like we’re not trying. The female half of the human race spends an ungodly amount of time and money trying to unlearn passivity and replace it with a dose of speaking up for themselves. 

In the meantime, however, there’s a number of things women are thinking about sex that tend to go unsaid, but you men should probably know them anyway. 

1) We can tell when you’re doing something because you saw it in a porno. 

Most sex in porn is about what’s good for the camera, not what’s good for the participants in it, especially the women. In fact, many things that look good in porn can keep us from having fun in real-life sex. For instance, in porn the only parts of their bodies the actors often touch are their genitals, so that the camera can get a full view of the action. But in real life, sex is more of a whole-body experience, and the genital-only thing can feel cold and masturbatory. 

Of course, we know that men know this, and most would deny that they’re doing stuff because it looked good in a porn and not because it felt good in the moment. So we’d rather not bring it up when you do stuff that looks better in porn than it feels in life. We don’t want to argue over whether or not that’s what you’re doing. But when you do something you picked up in a porn that doesn’t add to the real-life pleasure, we take notice and we’re often hoping you get it out of your system so we can move on to activities that are actually fun. 

2) Endurance is overrated.

 It’s not that jokes about two-pump chumps are completely baseless. Women do like having sex, and most of us can point to at least one or two experiences where a man orgasmed as soon as he touched you, and then rolled over and fell asleep while you wondered if that was all you’re going to get. 

But just because women would prefer intercourse to last more than 60 seconds doesn’t mean that longer is always better. If you consider a point of pride that you can thrust away for an hour without coming, there’s a high chance your partner is lying under you wondering how on earth she can say she’d have liked to wrap it up 40 minutes ago, but is afraid to say anything because she doesn’t want to stomp all over your accomplishments. The vagina’s ability to continue lubricating itself is limited, which can make marathon sex feel more like a duty than a joy. 

3) We actually do know what will get us to orgasm. 

Are you trying this and then trying that and finding nothing works to get her there? There’s a strong possibility she actually knows exactly what needs to happen, because she’s had practice masturbating, but is afraid to say so because her path to orgasm has been perceived by other men or the culture at large as bitchy or emasculating. She might feel that bringing a vibrator in bed will make you feel like less than a man, or she might worry that having you eat her out at length is boring for you. So she won’t ask. 

If you suspect this might be the case, it’s well worth bringing up. But don’t do it during sex, when fear of judgment is that much higher. While you’re sitting on the couch watching American Idol will lower the stakes of this discussion tremendously.  

4) “Getting there” is more trouble than it’s worth. 

This is only true for a minority of women, but when I put the call out on Twitterfor women to tell me what they don’t tell men, the women who said this were the most passionate respondents. For women who have trouble orgasming, sex could be fun, but it isn’t not because of their lack of orgasm so much as their fear they’ll disappoint their partners. They find themselves avoiding sex because they don’t want to have to endure endless attempts to bring forth an orgasm that will never come, but they still like to masturbate, even if they usually can’t reach orgasm. S

So, when you’re having that talk explaining that you’re not going to freak out if she starts speaking up about her needs, be clear that you’re not going to judge her if she’s feeling like orgasms don’t have to be the star of the show every time she has sex. Many women don’t fake orgasms. But pretty much all women turn the volume up on the ones they do have, because they know you like it. This isn’t lying, but embellishment, and it would be nice if men returned the favor. Sex is no time for masculine stoicism. A little verbal appreciation in the form of moaning and groaning makes a nice two-way street.

5) Our bodies are very sensitive when aroused, so err on the gentle side. 

When I put the call out for suggestions for this article, this was probably the No. 1 category, with comments like, “That’s a clitoris, not an elevator button.” Nipple-twisting was also denounced, and one woman noted that not every woman is a fan of finger-banging, which can feel rough and sort of pointless. Men who dive at your genitals with their mouths were appreciated for their enthusiasm, but not so much for their technique. 

Overall, the feeling was that more pressure can be added as needed, but the shock to the system of having someone overdo it can be a major turnoff.

Obviously, every woman is different, and even with these most general of guidelines, you’ll find dissenters. Communication between partners is the ideal. But have some sympathy on women who haven’t read enough self-help books or seen enough therapists to overcome their fear of speaking up. You might find that having patience and understanding will make it easier to draw them out over the long run. To encourage more communication, don’t make faces or act like your ego is hurt when women do push themselves to speak up. It likely took a lot of courage to do so in the first place.

This post was originally featured on the Good Men Project and reposted with permission.

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